Why I'm not looking past the panel

I actually wrote this ages ago!
I touched on it in my last post but thought it was maybe worth sharing the full thing. I haven't updated anything after what's happened the last few weeks.

I I never finished writing it so it's a bit over the place .... but you get the idea.

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Hi all,

Some people have accused me of being overly negative or not optimistic enough regarding our chances going forward in the adoption process.

Here's why (personal-ish kinda type stuff coming up ;0) )

Imagine you get married and you spend a few years trying to get health issues sorted out with an aim to starting a family. Now imagine that you get those things sorted out, but in getting them sorted out, one of the things that sorts it means you can't start a family naturally. Got that in your head? Trust me, you're probably not even close.

Right, now imagine you spend a year or so going through the first part of the adoption process; approval. Imagine going through that year thinking about what it will be like when you get approved and what could happen next. Imagine pinning everything on that. Now think about what would happen if after all that a group on people who don't even know you read an abridged biography of your live and decide that you are not good enough/fit/suitable to adopt. That'd probably be pretty devastating right?

I don't want to get to that point. If we have an issue or they don't approve us I don't want to have spent a year thinking and planning our future for it once again to be denied. This denial would be even worse if that was to happen. This time we're being judged.

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Anyway ... there you go. Please, and I mean this respectfully as I've valued everyone's support in this, but please don't tell me it will all be fine and to be more optimistic. I'm hopeful, I'm realistic, but I'm also not wanting to set myself up for a fall.

Hope that maybe helps clear things up a wee bitty :)

Thanks as always.
Ross