Monday, 5 November 2012
Our Adoption: Forgive us for now .... we're kinda burnt
Our Adoption: Forgive us for now .... we're kinda burnt: Hi all, I know these posts are getting shorter, but here's the long and the short of it ... we're burnt. This is actually starting to take...
Forgive us for now .... we're kinda burnt
Hi all,
I know these posts are getting shorter, but here's the long and the short of it ... we're burnt. This is actually starting to take it's toll. We've spent the last 10 months talking and thinking about us as a couple and what we want to get out of this .... and what we've been through ... and why we're adopting .... and what we do together .... and why we're adopting .... and why we're adopting, oh .... and why we're adopting.
It's taking it's toll. I said to Steph today that I could quite happily sack this off for a few months and come back to it later. It don't think I (or indeed We) have ever been so mentally drained!
So here's the score:
How far through are we? We don't know.
How much more do we have to do? We don't know.
How's it going? We don't know.
If you ask either of us how it's going, please, if we roll our eyes or sigh first it really is nothing personal or about people asking, we just don't know what else to say right now. Like I said, we are both burnt with this.
From talking to our social worker we are on her timescales, so that's cool. We are due to complete this bit around Christmas. So .... Christmas is cancelled! lol Looks like we'll submit everything just before Christmas and go to panel just after .... yeah, I'll relax during that!
We both want to be as open about this as possible, and believe me we are trying to be as open and talk as much as we can ...... but please realise that we are both struggling with things to say without:
a) going over the same ground over and over
b) boring people who have heard it
c) boring ourselves
d) I dunno .....
We're looking at panel in January right now.
*sigh* ... I actually don't know what to say....
The past week we've gone over the following:
So yeah .... if our answers to questions are a bit short, please don't take it personally. If we don't seem as interested as you'd like, again, it's not personal. We're losing track of what we've said to who and what we last told you.
This has ended up, and is still so much more intrusive and draining than we expected.
We really do appreciate more than you know, the support we've had. Asking us has shown us support. A text has made us feel a hundred times better. Every question helps, even if we're unsure how best to reply and continue.
We were asked if we received any negative responses to our choice to adopt .... this took me aback. We have received nothing but support from you all. You'll never know how much it means to us.
We're getting there.
Thanks
Ross xx
I know these posts are getting shorter, but here's the long and the short of it ... we're burnt. This is actually starting to take it's toll. We've spent the last 10 months talking and thinking about us as a couple and what we want to get out of this .... and what we've been through ... and why we're adopting .... and what we do together .... and why we're adopting .... and why we're adopting, oh .... and why we're adopting.
It's taking it's toll. I said to Steph today that I could quite happily sack this off for a few months and come back to it later. It don't think I (or indeed We) have ever been so mentally drained!
So here's the score:
How far through are we? We don't know.
How much more do we have to do? We don't know.
How's it going? We don't know.
If you ask either of us how it's going, please, if we roll our eyes or sigh first it really is nothing personal or about people asking, we just don't know what else to say right now. Like I said, we are both burnt with this.
From talking to our social worker we are on her timescales, so that's cool. We are due to complete this bit around Christmas. So .... Christmas is cancelled! lol Looks like we'll submit everything just before Christmas and go to panel just after .... yeah, I'll relax during that!
We both want to be as open about this as possible, and believe me we are trying to be as open and talk as much as we can ...... but please realise that we are both struggling with things to say without:
a) going over the same ground over and over
b) boring people who have heard it
c) boring ourselves
d) I dunno .....
We're looking at panel in January right now.
*sigh* ... I actually don't know what to say....
The past week we've gone over the following:
- Support network
- Parental Competencies (ours)
- Tolerances
- ... um ... Steph and I discussed views on taking in a child of different ethnic or religious backgrounds
- What kind of parents would we be?*
- What would we take from our upbringing
- What would we drop from our upbringing
- What would we do compared to our parents
So yeah .... if our answers to questions are a bit short, please don't take it personally. If we don't seem as interested as you'd like, again, it's not personal. We're losing track of what we've said to who and what we last told you.
This has ended up, and is still so much more intrusive and draining than we expected.
We really do appreciate more than you know, the support we've had. Asking us has shown us support. A text has made us feel a hundred times better. Every question helps, even if we're unsure how best to reply and continue.
We were asked if we received any negative responses to our choice to adopt .... this took me aback. We have received nothing but support from you all. You'll never know how much it means to us.
We're getting there.
Thanks
Ross xx
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